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Laughter, concern, prayer, confusion, a yell of frustration … these have all been part of my week.

I went to our local drugstore to purchase some items. I knew I’d pulled out coupons for that store but couldn’t find them where I usually put them. After paying my bill, I walked out to the car to find the coupons in the back seat. Since several were about to expire, I walked back into the store, got a refund for all the items and then PAID MORE … because on the first receipt the clerk missed one item! I had to laugh. I went back to save money and ended up spending more. I wouldn’t have looked at the receipt closely enough to recognize I wasn’t charged for something. But God knew … and took me back in to pay for EVERY item I purchased!

Wednesday Don and Paige drove me to get my first Covid vaccination. Standing in line I felt a bit like I was in a cattle call. But the site was actually well organized and I was in and out in an hour. The only reaction I felt was some itching at the location of the shot the next day. Well done.

Back to the drugstore … I had two online accounts and called their corporate office (with lots of waiting before I got to the right person) to combine the accounts and delete one. Done. However, the next day when I looked online to order a pharmacy refill, my prescriptions were not in my account! Between yesterday and today I probably spent 2-3 hours on the phone, trying to get some web support.

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I had already tried three numbers I’d been given, and spent hours on the phone waiting. So after this rep said she couldn’t help me and I had to call my insurance provider to fix the drugstore website’s problem, I grumpily said ‘thank you,’ hung up and yelled. After I calmed down I called the local store again, and the manager told me they can fix my account there the next time I’m in the shop. Whew!

How do we respond when these irritants touch our lives, sometimes seemingly all at once? Yes, I yelled today. I’m not proud of that. And my dear hubby listened to me vent. I prayed for grace not to take my frustration out on those trying to help.

My computer’s sound was very low. It was hard to hear a youtube or presentation. A tech guy suggested I order small speakers to go on either side of my computer. I thought it was a setting issue. I got online with Microsoft’s virtual agent, who said my audio drivers were probably not working. She reinstalled them and wallah, I can hear well again! No speakers necessary!

Don, Paige and I also took a welcome walk in the afternoon. That’s a stress reliever and a good time to be together.

We learned this week that my nephew has Covid. Three of his four children and his mother (my sister-in-law, visiting the kids with my brother) have all tested positive for Covid. So they are with family they love while needing to stay in their rooms, separated. A niece of Don’s and her husband have Covid. Kim is in the hospital, with the next 16-24 hours being critical in regards to his response to treatment. We’re praying for each of them.

I have told you these things (i.e. that I am leaving), so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

John 16:33, parenthesis mine

I’m so glad there’s a God who is still sovereign; who still loves us; who tells us to “cast all your cares on him, because he cares for you” (I Peter 5:7). And who isn’t finished with his work in me!

… being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

Philippians 1:6

What is Love?

“Love is a choice of the will, not a servant to the emotions.”

Many of us are familiar with I Corinthians 13, the apostle Paul’s love chapter.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends.

I Corinthians 13:4-8a

These are great tests for how I’m loving my husband, my family, friends and neighbors. And those with whom I disagree!

Do I want the best for my partner, or only those lovely things he does for me?

Do I insist on my own way, and become resentful when I don’t get it?

When my husband (or wife) is discouraged, how can I come alongside to encourage and strengthen him (her) with hope?

Where do I most need patience, kindness, goodness in my relationships?

What difference does it make if I show Christ-like love when my partner or friend doesn’t?

I’m happily ensconced in my second marriage, having lost one spouse to death. HARD? No words for it! Don’t waste your moments together!

But in both marriages to men I love(d) deeply, there were times when I didn’t like them very much. Didn’t feel particularly attracted to them. No soft, snuggly warmth. More like this worn-down barn.

So what can you or I do when that is the case?

Remember that love is a choice. And its accompanying feelings cycle. At times attraction and warm, fuzzy feelings peak and we’re crazy in love with the other person. At other times something they do, which may be quite minor, tips the scales and we want to correct them, stop them, express our anger or frustration.

Love is a choice. If we wait patiently, the cycle will again change. Godly love, the kind spoken of in I Corinthians 13, chooses to upbuild and uplift the other even when circumstances are less than ideal. 2020 Walter Payton NFL Man of the Year, Russell Wilson, paraphrased his father’s instruction to him…

“To the young boy or girl who has a dream, who wants to make a difference. Remember this one thing: love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love changes things.”


I think of husbands who love their disabled wives, care for them, help meet their needs with understanding hearts. I read about a man who visited his wife in the Alzheimer’s Unit of a care center every day. She didn’t recognize him any more. Because of a stroke, her lip drooped on one side. Every day her husband would do his best to match the curve of her lip as he kissed her, then served her in any way he could.

I’m grateful for wives who encourage husbands who are discouraged and unsure which direction to go.

I thank God for the partners who commit to the long road of rebuilding a marriage after trust has been broken by infidelity.

And for those who, through good days and bad, support, pray for and encourage their mates.

That’s the kind of lover and friend I want to be.

My husband shows his love for me consistently and in many ways–on a cold morning he’ll start my car so it warms up before I have to leave for an appointment.

He makes breakfast every day to free me to write in the mornings.

We hug and encourage each other when one of us is discouraged, down.

We pray together for our families, friends, our nation.

And I am blessed in his love and, from what he tells me, he is in mine.

But think about the people around you who may be lonely–either married or single–but not experiencing the love and true partnership of either a spouse or a family member. What can you and I do today, this week, to reach out and extend love to someone near who may look like all is well, but inside is not?

I’m going to call my single neighbor right now.

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No Dice

If I have to listen to this audio message one more time ...

If I have to listen to this audio message one more time …

Twelve days ago I phoned our cable service provider. Our grandsons were over and wanted to watch On Demand, which wasn’t working. During my first call the customer service rep walked me through some steps to reset the modem and said the reset would take hold in 30-45 minutes. Later that night I rechecked. No dice.

We repeated the process each of the next two days – still with no success. A manager was to call us back Saturday for escalated service. No call.

Last week I was too busy to call again, tired of getting their automated messages and of being given advice that didn’t work. Twelve days later, we still can’t get our On Demand service.

So tomorrow I’ll try again, asking God to control my temper while I go through the automated links once more.

What irritates you and makes you ask for help in your response?