These four women, and one other, have become precious to me over the past five or six years as our “Fab Friday” group meets twice monthly to study the Bible, pray, and care for each other. This photo was taken at our 2018 Christmas brunch a few days ago.
We’ve walked through a lot of life together in these years…illness, loss, life’s various challenges. About a year ago I needed to take a step back due to my own health issues, so I dropped out of the group for a time. These women continued to love me, communicate with me, and keep me in the loop.
This past year has included lots of change for me: a new shoulder, new knee, a move to a new home and community, some of my closest friends moving out of the area … I realized I need these long-term sisters in Christ. I need their support and friendship, even as I give mine to them.
Why do I need these women?
WISE FRIENDS MAKE ONE WISER
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” (Proverbs 13:20 New International Version)
These are godly women from whom I learn much, and I need their input into my life, even as I share with them..
WE BEAR EACH OTHER’S BURDENS
“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2)
WE CHALLENGE EACH OTHER TO BE MORE LIKE JESUS
“As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.” (Proverbs 27:17 New Living Translation”
As we are vulnerable to share our weaknesses as well as strengths, we sharpen each other to be more like Jesus.
WE FOLLOW JESUS’ EXAMPLE
God, Creator, Sustainer, Comforter, Healer, Peacegiver, Redeemer, exists in community himself: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. And He created us for relationship–not to go it alone, not to pull ourselves up by our bootstraps, but to be in relationship with Him and with others.
These women are not my only friends; I have dear friends near and far. Some are one-on-one friendships, other couple friendships, but this is a group of women committed to each other, to confidentiality of the things we share, and to building each other up in our walks with Jesus. Such friendships are a precious gift, to be treasured and nurtured.
It’s easy for me to get lazy. I need to be reminded of how God is at work in others’ lives; to remain in His word and also to be reminded through what others recognize, how God is working in my own life.
And so, as of January 4th, I’m back in!
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up.” ( Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
Question: If you do not have a small group of trusted women or men with whom you meet regularly, where can you find one?